How to Communicate Without Breaking the Bond

The Peaceful Healing Dialogue is a communication tool that teaches respectful ways of communicating through transparency, self-reflection, active listening, empathy, and ultimately, connection.

Dr. Judy created this communication tool as a way of turning your wounded relationship into an evolving, relationshift. Utilizing the PHD, you will learn that disagreements in relationships don’t have to result in destruction of self or others. In contrast, you’ll be able to consider the upside of healthy disagreement, such as fresh perspective, accountability, and compassion.

 The Peaceful Healing Dialogue is a helpful tool to utilize in all relationships, whether it’s a significant other, child, parent, friend, coworker you’re conversing with. The goal is to create understanding and resolution.

 

Transparency in Communication

When it comes to successfully communicating in relationships, being truthful (even when it hurts) plays a major role in not only understanding others; but to help understand ourselves, triggers, and negative core beliefs.

Helpful Communication Tip- An aspect of PHD is to ask for permission to have difficult conversations. Making sure you and the other person are open, not defensive, when responding to transparency.

 

Self-Reflection in Communication

Self-reflection, not unlike transparency, is crucial in holding yourself accountable, or “owning your own stuff”, to remain open to growth and evolution. In turn, if both parties partake in their own journey of self-reflection, they can learn how to express their needs, concerns, boundaries to help deepen and repair the connection between each other.

 

Active Listening in Communication

As adults, we have the same basic needs as we did in childhood. We want to be seen, heard, understood, and valued. Active listening goes beyond hearing the words another is trying to communicate. When active listening, you are selflessly creating a safe open space for the other person share without distraction, judgement, or defense. This includes not only dialogue, but nonverbal communication. “For example, eye contact communicates that the person speaking is worth listening to, while being occupied with a cell phone and/or looking away can cause the speaker to feel like they don’t matter.”

Helpful Communication Tip- When active listening to another, it is important to ingest and digest what the other is communicating, instead of deflecting their messages.

 

Empathy in Communication

A key component in PHD is empathy. Once you understand the other person’s intentions, it becomes easier to let down defenses and take in what they are trying to communicate. Many couples end up spiraling in conversation and forget that empathy/understanding is the goal rather than playing the tit for tat game.

Helpful Communication Tip- Being able to express empathy in communication is helpful because we often assume the other person experiences life the same as we do with the same needs and boundaries. Putting ourselves in their shoes helps deepen understanding and connection.

 

From A Mind Map Perspective

Our negative core beliefs have a way of showing up in our everyday relationships and outwardly in the ways we communicate with those around us. “The Peaceful Healing Dialogue is a powerful communication tool designed to prevent people from activating negative core beliefs and ripping open old wounds.”

 

 

“By learning the Peaceful Healing Dialogue, you can earn your Ph.D. in communication by expressing your thoughts and feelings without disconnecting emotionally.” -Dr. Judy, Be the Cause